I read an article today on raising gentlemen and I agreed with all the qualities the author lists as what they see a gentleman to be in their home. Towards the end of her article she discusses how she is going to raise her boys to be gentlemen. The one that has made me write this post is her first point:
"Set a positive example. My boys are fortunate to have a gentleman for a father, but it also means surrounding them with positive male role models. They see their grandfather, uncles, and dear friends as examples of how to live with integrity."
I am sat here thinking and thinking about positive male role models that exist in our son's life. Men that we come into contact with that we consider to live their lives honestly and with integrity. Other than Sprout there are very few males in our lives that I want my son to look up to; I can count the many positive male role models we know on one hand! I look at the males in Munch's life and think to myself, do I want our son to grow up and be like you? This of course also applies to the females in case you were wondering.
I know that he will come into contact with many people of differing types and that we cannot have 100% control of that. Some, he will be subjected to because ... well, because they are family and how do you rock that boat? I cannot stop all contact with some individuals despite the increasing uneasiness I feel as he grows and develops. How do you ask someone to stop being who they are because you do not want that type of attitude and negativity aimed at and around your child? I have no idea where I would start that conversation so the option that I am happy with is to limit our son's exposure to it.
So, to start on this journey to raising a gentleman we'll start with two things - honesty and manners. They cost nothing yet can prove hard to find at times; those are the building blocks we'll start with. We can only make sure we put the groundwork in but as the quote says, " ...being a gentleman is a matter of choice." In years to come that choice will be Munch's - we, his parents, will have to wait and see.